How to deal with a heartbreak

Getting over someone who once meant the world to you is one of the hardest things a human has to do. There is no one size fits all for heartbreak, so maybe one or two of these tips can help you:

1.Distract yourself with hobbies

Positive hobbies could be extremely beneficial when trying to move on from someone. Pick up a new hobby by yourself or even better, with friends! Life shouldn’t be lived without growing and learning so why not pick up a new hobby or thing to learn that’ll help take your mind off of your heavy chest.

2. Don’t go looking for negative ways to cope.

Negative hobbies or distractions will do the opposite that positive ones will. Don’t go looking for alcohol, drugs or partying in order to deal with your sadness because those at the end of the day don’t help you grow, it’ll be a good distraction only while you’re doing it and then once its effects are gone, you will still be sad. Those negative coping tendencies are ways that addictions start.

3. Feel your emotions

Honestly, sometimes the only thing that will make you feel better is crying out your emotions. Isolate yourself for a week if you have to. Wallow in the grief of the person and the relationship you thought you were going to be and the relationship you were going to have. Cry or be angry or sad; the longer you suppress those feelings, the longer it’ll take to heal. Scream if you really need to, get rid of all their things and all the things that remind you of them. Pretend for the first couple of weeks that it’s a death of a person who once meant so much to you.

4. Remind yourself of all the reasons it didn’t work

This is the hardest step in my opinion because you have to remember all the things that made the relationship work and the things that made it fall apart. Someone clearly ended the relationship for a reason so you have to remember why and if you don’t have a reason then the closure is what you have to give yourself in order to move on. They or you decided to leave for something. Give up on that person if they left you and if you ended things then trust that your feelings of negativity were strong enough to let go. Don’t look back. Right person, wrong time is not a thing; if they were the right person then they would’ve gone for you already.

5. Remind yourself of the things you get to do now that you’re single.

Try to remain positive and remember all the things you’ve been meaning to get to but didn’t have the time to because you were busy doing couple things. Remain positive that better things are coming and now you get to spend more time on yourself, your friends and your loved ones.

6. Don’t throw yourself into a situationship

Nothing is worse than trying to get over two people that broke your heart or trying to get over one person who broke your heart and then at the same time trying to get over someone who won’t commit to you. A situationship is hell, trust me; notice the warning signs and accept when someone says they are not interested in anything serious that they are telling you the truth.

7. Block or remove them from your life

This one is hard, I know. However, the only way to really get over an ex who doesn’t understand no contact or boundaries is to block them out of your life. If it’s a mutual breakup then that likely won’t be necessary, but if it’s not amicable then I would recommend saying goodbye to the energy and stress of seeing someone’s name appear on your screen.