How to know when you should walk away

The difficult decision fortunately and unfortunately is up to you sometimes. Whether or not you are always the dumper or the dumpee, knowing when you have reached your limits and are ready to leave your relationship is important. 

Here are some key identifiers that you are better off walking away:

1. They broke things off

If someone says they no longer want you in their life, why would you beg for them to change their mind? You deserve someone who is 100% sure about you today, tomorrow and everyday after that. The second you give someone a second, third or fourth chance to come back into your life, you are telling them that the behavior they have expressed is appropriate and acceptable. By you begging someone to come back into your life after they have said they don't want you is the second that you are actively compromising with love.

2. They ask for a break

Asking for a break from your partner is only appropriate 1% of the time in relationships. The other half of the time, the person initiating the break is saying that they don't want to be with you for a certain period of time because they want to be with someone else. In my experience, nothing good comes from a break and the "clarity" they are asking for usually involves another person. If you or your partner are considering going on a break, maybe it's best to evaluate if you need a break or a different relationship.

3. They leave you feeling confused after every interaction

Love should not be confusing. Love should not make you question your sanity. Love should be easy and gentle and your person should choose you in the beginning of the relationship just as much as they choose you during the difficult times. If your partner is showing you mixed signals or constantly rescheduling saying that something "came up", they are not that into you. If you are the only one that asks to see the other, then they are not that invested in the relationship. If their response to hanging out with you is always "maybe" then they are just waiting for a better option or person to invite the to do something. The second someone's behavior changes, acknowledge it, be intentional about communicating that you notice and then if it keeps happening, leave.

4. They cheat either physically or emotionally

Cheaters will always cheat. Cheater will always have the mentality of "there is someone better" rather than focusing on what they have or not having enough guts to break off the relationship they are currently in. The second someone chooses another person over you is the second you have enough clarity to end a relationship. If they did it once, they will do it again. Put your chin up and know your worth.

5. You or they have stopped putting in effort

If you want a healthy and happy love, then you have to give up the comfortability that comes with a broken relationship. Effort comes easily when you want to keep someone in your life. The honeymoon phase thinking is toxic and makes partners believe that they only have to try hard in the beginning. Time in a relationship should grow the bond you and your partner have and should make it easier to please them because you know more about what they like and don't like. Being comfortable in a relationship is not a reason to ever stop showing someone you love them. If your partner stops showing that they care or stops trying to fulfill your love language, then imagine what it'll be like in a couple more years. Leave the relationship before you lose yourself trying to change someone or convincing someone to love you the way you want to.